Many people around us often hurt us or frighten us. They force us to do things that we do not want to do. They pass stupid jokes on us that can be cool for them but can irritate us. They try to make us feel down so that they may look smart. And often try to say things that aren’t actually in that way. All these things come into the category of bullying. And the person who is bullying can be your relative, neighbor, and even your friend.
Let’s say you are sitting with your friends. At that moment, one of your friends passes a joke on you and try to make fun of your weaknesses. Everyone sitting there started to laugh looking at you, and you also pretend to laugh. But that joke of your friend hurts you, and you feel inferior. Now here the point is we never say to our friends that I didn’t like your joke and please don’t do this again with me. We think that it is okay and it happens between friends. After all, we are friends – right? But we need to understand that being bullied by someone is not a good thing. It gives rise to anxiety, stress, and depression. Deep down that person feels poor and starts to dislike himself/herself.
Now the question is how to overcome this and not to be part of this stupid thing.
1. Speak up when you don’t feel good:
There are higher chances of being bullied when you are sitting with a group of friends. So if you don’t like what someone says to you, then say it and speak up that whatever you say isn’t good and I feel bad. By doing this, you can give a straight signal to that person that does not try to do this again. And I think it is good. We can say if we don’t like something. Rather than suffering in silence, it is a great idea to speak up and express what we feel.
2. Talk to your friend:
It may seem awkward for some people to speak up in front of many people and saying that I don’t feel good about that joke or anything. So one can also talk to that person in private who tries to bully. Try to figure out the problem together and solve it. So that you don’t be hurt by that person again.
We should always be honest with our friends and should let them know how they make us feel. We should let them know that their talks can hurt us, their jokes can irritate us, and their words can make us feel worse. Be simple, be direct, and sort out the things.
3. Walk away when you feel bad:
We always keep this thing in our mind and heart that our friends are the well-wisher of us, they can’t do anything wrong to us but that’s not always true. You may be judged by your friends, you may be criticized, ignored, or left out and you don’t even know because you think that they are your friends. Try to see things in a different way. There may be toxic people around you and they might be your friends. If you feel you are not okay with what is happening to you. Think about it when you were been judged and made fun of. If you think you were being bullied by your friends then simply walk away.
Friendship is a really amazing relationship. But we have to see things from a different perspective so that we can find out what’s wrong. Your friends can be your frenemies. These are the basic things in life. Because what people say to you is hurting you then it makes your life worse. It destroys your happiness, peace, and ultimately your life. Learn to stand for yourself, learn to speak when you don’t feel good, learn to talk for yourself, and even if still things are gone wrong simply walk away and make your life peaceful.
Frenimies: A person who combines the characteristics of a friend and an enemy.
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I hope you all are well. It’s been a month I have not posted anything because of my busy schedule, online classes, quizzes, and assignments. It is really difficult to manage all these things together. But no need to worry. Today, I am going to share with you an intriguing article “Let’s love maths.” This article has also been published in Young World, DAWN which is a magazine by DAWN. So, here it is. Enjoy!
Class room memories of daunting equations and fractions with no immediate resonance to the real world, scare people into declaring they are frankly, “bad at maths”. In reality, mathematics underpins the world around us in more ways than we could ever imagine. Just by paying bills, buying grocery and calculating the change returned, measuring home improvements and making everyday decisions, people do maths often without realising.
People say they hate maths, but actually they love counting money! When people say they don’t get maths, it’s mostly because they’ve never been acquainted with the nature of mathematics. They were never told that it is all within them and all they need is a little discovery of this language within them. Or that after a little initial struggle in various topics and a little practice on it, maths will become as simple as breathing.
Maths is a language we should all learn, not to have a good job but because it’s fun to dig into and learn. Every subject should be taught as an adventure not as a tool to earn money.
It’s only by training adventurers with adventures that you’ll have successful and innovative future generations. Once you do understand it, you’ll love knowing yourself and your world through it! It can’t be possible not to understand maths, because the world runs on it!
I am a student of Mathematics and I do love Maths. It is a very exciting and mind-blogging subject. There are myths that it is a language of ghosts but let me tell you that it is the language of the Universe.
I hope you enjoy reading the article. Share your feedback in the comment section. I would love to read your feedback. Have a nice weekend ahead. Stay blessed. 🙂
I hope you all are having a great time. Today, I am sharing with you the last post regarding the forty rules of love. Before I have shared its 2 parts so today is part-3 which is last.
I wish that you will take pleasure in reading these brilliant quotes of love by Shams Tabrizi. The sole objective for writing the blog about these rules was that most of the people are oblivious of these wonderful rues that attribute the true meaning of life. So I thought to share it with you all.
So, here are the remaining rules. Enjoy.
☘ Rule No.21
When a true lover of God goes into a tavern, the tavern becomes his chamber of prayer, but when a wine bibber goes into the same chamber, it becomes his tavern. In everything we do, it is our hearts that make the difference, not our outer appearance. Sufis do not judge other people on how they look or who they are. When a Sufi stares at someone, he keeps both eyes closed instead opens a third eye – the eye that sees the inner realm.
☘ Rule No.22
Life is a temporary loan and this world is nothing but a sketchy imitation of Reality. Only children would mistake a toy for the real thing. And yet human beings either become infatuated with the toy or disrespectfully break it and throw it aside. In this life stay away from all kinds of extremities, for they will destroy your inner balance. Sufis do not go to extremes. A Sufi always remains mild and moderate.
☘ Rule No.23
The human being has a unique place among God’s creation. “I breathed into him of My Spirit,” God says. Each and every one of us without exception is designed to be God’s delegate on earth. Ask yourself, just how often do you behave like a delegate, if you ever do so? Remember, it fells upon each of us to discover the divine spirit inside and live by it.
☘ Rule No.24
Hell is in the here and now. So is heaven. Quit worrying about hell or dreaming about heaven, as they are both present inside this very moment. Every time we fall in love, we ascend to heaven. Every time we hate, envy or fight someone we tumble straight into the fires of hell.
☘ Rule No.25
Each and every reader comprehends the Holy Qur’an on a different level of tandem with the depth of his understanding. There are four levels of insight. The first level is the outer meaning and it is the one that the majority of the people are content with. Next is the Batin – the inner level. Third, there is the inner of the inner. And the fourth level is so deep it cannot be put into words and is therefore bound to remain indescribable.
☘ Rule No.26
The universe is one being. Everything and everyone is interconnected through an invisible web of stories. Whether we are aware of it or not, we are all in a silent conversation. Do no harm. Practice compassion. And do not gossip behind anyone’s back – not even a seemingly innocent remark! The words that come out of our mouths do not vanish but are perpetually stored in infinite space and they will come back to us in due time. One man’s pain will hurt us all. One man’s joy will make everyone smile.
☘ Rule No.27
Whatever you speak, good or evil, will somehow come back to you. Therefore, if there is someone who harbours ill thoughts about you, saying similarly bad things about him will only make matters worse. You will be locked in a vicious circle of malevolent energy. Instead for forty days and nights say and think nice things about that person. Everything will be different at the end of 40 days, because you will be different inside.
☘ Rule No.28
The past is an interpretation. The future is on illusion. The world does not more through time as if it were a straight line, proceeding from the past to the future. Instead time moves through and within us, in endless spirals. Eternity does not mean infinite time, but simply timelessness. If you want to experience eternal illumination, put the past and the future out of your mind and remain within the present moment.
☘ Rule No.29
Destiny doesn’t mean that your life has been strictly predetermined. Therefore, to live everything to the fate and to not actively contribute to the music of the universe is a sign of sheer ignorance. The music of the universe is all pervading and it is composed on 40 different levels. Your destiny is the level where you play your tune. You might not change your instrument but how well to play is entirely in your hands.
☘ Rule No.30
The true Sufi is such that even when he is unjustly accused, attacked and condemned from all sides, he patiently endures, uttering not a sing bad word about any of his critics. A Sufi never apportions blame. How can there be opponents or rivals or even “others” when there is no “self” in the first place? How can there be anyone to blame when there is only One?
☘ Rule No.31
If you want to strengthen your faith, you will need to soften inside. For your faith to be rock solid, your heart needs to be as soft as a feather. Through an illness, accident, loss or fright, one way or another, we are all faced with incidents that teach us how to become less selfish and judgmental and more compassionate and generous. Yet some of us learn the lesson and manage to become milder, while some others end up becoming even harsher than before…
☘ Rule No.32
Nothing should stand between you and God. No imams, priests, rabbits or any other custodians of moral or religious leadership. Not spiritual masters and not even your faith. Believe in your values and your rules, but never lord them over others. If you keep breaking other people’s hearts, whatever religious duty you perform is no good. Stay away from all sorts of idolatry, for they will blur your vision. Let God and only God be your guide. Learn the Truth, my friend, but be careful not to make a fetish out of your truths.
☘ Rule No.33
While everyone in this world strives to get somewhere and become someone, only to leave it all behind after death, you aim for the supreme stage of nothingness. Live this life as light and empty as the number zero. We are no different from a pot. It is not the decorations outside but the emptiness inside that holds us straight. Just like that, it is not what we aspire to achieve but the consciousness of nothingness that keeps us going.
☘ Rule No.34
Submission does not mean being weak or passive. It leads to neither fatalism nor capitulation. Just the opposite. True power resides in submission a power that comes within. Those who submit to the divine essence of life will live in unperturbed tranquillity and peace even the whole wide world goes through turbulence after turbulence.
☘ Rule No.35
In this world, it is not similarities or regularities that take us a step forward, but blunt opposites. And all the opposites in the universe are present within each and every one of us. Therefore the believer needs to meet the unbeliever residing within. And the nonbeliever should get to know the silent faithful in him. Until the day one reaches the stage of Insane-I Kamil, the perfect human being, faith is a gradual process and one that necessitates its seeming opposite: disbelief.
☘ Rule No.36
This world is erected upon the principle of reciprocity. Neither a drop of kindness nor a speck of evil will remain unreciprocated. For not the plots, deceptions, or tricks of other people. If somebody is setting a trap, remember, so is God. He is the biggest plotter. Not even a leaf stirs outside God’s knowledge. Simply and fully believe in that. Whatever God does, He does it beautifully.
☘ Rule No.37
God is a meticulous dock maker. So precise is His order that everything on earth happens in its own time. Neither a minute late nor a minute early. And for everyone without exception, the clock works accurately. For each there is a time to love and a time to die.
☘ Rule No.38
It is never too late to ask yourself, “Am I ready to change the life I am living? Am I ready to change within?” Even if a single day in your life is the same as the day before, it surely is a pity. At every moment and with each new breath, one should be renewed and renewed again. There is only one-way to be born into a new life: to die before death.
☘ Rule No.39
While the part change, the whole always remains the same. For every thief who departs this world, a new one is born. And every descent person who passes away is replaced by a new one. In this way not only does nothing remain the same but also nothing ever really changes. For every Sufi who dies, another is born somewhere.
☘ Rule No.40
A life without love is of no account. Don’t ask yourself what kind of love you should seek, spiritual or material, divine or mundane, Eastern or Western. Divisions only lead to more divisions. Love has no labels, no definitions. It is what it is, pure and simple. Love is the water of life. And a lover is a soul of fire! The universe turns differently when fire loves water.
Reference: The Forty Rules of Love by Elif Shafak
So, here is the end of the rules.
These were 40 rules of Love by Shams Tabrizi. I hope you like them.
There are 40 rules of love by Shams Tabrizi that explain the true meaning of love and life. All 40 rules are awe-inspiring and encouraging towards life. In the first post I shared 5 rules out of 40 and today I will be sharing with you the remaining rules.
So, here we go. 🙂
☘ Rule No.6
Loneliness and solitude are two different things. When you are lonely, it is easy to delude yourself into believing that you are on the right path. Solitude is better for us, as it means being alone without feeling lonely. But eventually it is best to find a person who will be your mirror. Remember only in another person’s heart can you truly see yourself and the presence of God within you.
☘ Rule No.7
Whatever happens in your life, no matter how troubling things might seem, do not enter the neighborhood of despair. Even when all doors remain closed, God will open up a new path only for you. Be thankful! It is easy to be thankful when all is well. A Sufi is thankful not only for what he has been given but also for all that he has been denied.
☘ Rule No.8
Patience does not mean to passively endure. It means to look at the end of a process. What does patience mean? It means to look at the thorn and see the rose, to look at the night, and see the dawn. Impatience means to be shortsighted as to not be able to see the outcome. The lovers of God never run out of patience, for they know that time is needed for the crescent moon to become full.
☘ Rule No.9
East, west, south, or north makes little difference. No matter what your destination, just be sure to make every journey a journey within. If you travel within, you’ll travel the whole wide world and beyond.
☘ Rule No.10
The quest for love changes us. There is no seeker among those who search for love who has not matured on the way. The moment you start looking for love, you start to change within and without.
☘ Rule No.11
The midwife knows that when there is no pain, the way for the baby cannot be opened and the mother cannot give birth. Likewise, for a new self to be born, hardship is necessary. Just as clay needs to go through intense heat to become strong, Love can only be perfected in pain.
☘ Rule No.12
There are more fake gurus and false teachers in this world than the number of stars in the visible universe. Don’t confuse power-driven, self-centered people with true mentors. A genuine spiritual master will not direct your attention to himself or herself and will not expect absolute obedience or utter admiration from you, but instead will help you to appreciate and admire your inner self. True mentors are as transparent as glass. They let the light of God pass through them.
☘ Rule No.13
Try not to resist the changes, which come your way. Instead let life live through you. And do not worry that your life is turning upside down. How do you know that the side you are used to is better than the one to come?
☘ Rule No.14
God is busy with the completion of your work, both outwardly and inwardly. He is fully occupied with you. Every human being is a work in progress that is slowly but inexorably moving toward realization. We are each an unfinished work of art both waiting and striving to be completed. God deals with each of us separately because humanity is a fine art of skilled penmanship where every single dot is equally important for the entire picture.
☘ Rule No.15
It’s easy to love a perfect God, unblemished, and infallible that He is. What is far more difficult is to love fellow human beings with all their imperfections and defects. Remember, one can only know what one is capable of loving. There is no wisdom without love. Unless we learn to love God’s creation, we can neither truly love nor truly know God.
☘ Rule No.16
Real filth is the one inside. The rest simply washes off. There is only one type of dirt that cannot be cleansed with pure waters, and that is the stain of hatred and bigotry contaminating the soul. You can purify your body through abstinence and fasting, but only love will purify your heart.
☘ Rule No.17
The whole universe is contained within a single human being – you. Everything that you see around, including the things that you might not be fond of and even the people you despise or abhor, is present within you in varying degrees. Therefore, do not look for Sheitan [“Devil” in Arabic, or what William Blake termed the principle of “Unbelief”] outside yourself either. The devil is not an extraordinary force that attacks from without. It is an ordinary voice within. If you set to know yourself fully, facing with honesty and hardness.
☘ Rule No.18
If you want to change the ways others treat you, you should first change the way you treat yourself. Unless you learn to love yourself, fully and sincerely, there is no way you can be loved. Once you achieve that stage, however, be thankful for every thorn that others might throw at you. It is a sign that you will soon be showered in roses.
☘ Rule No.19
Fret not where the road will take you. Instead concentrate on the first step. That is the hardest part and that is what you are responsible for. Once you take that step let everything do what it naturally does and the rest will follow. Don’t go with the flow. Be the flow.
☘ Rule No.20
We were all created in His image, and yet we were each created different and unique. No two people are alike. No hearts beat to the same rhythm. If God had wanted everyone to be the same, He would have made it so. Therefore, disrespecting differences and imposing your thoughts on others is tantamount to disrespecting God’s holy scheme.
These rules are really wonderful to understand the meaning of life, love, and to create a connection with God.
I would love to listen to your recommendations, thoughts, and feedback regarding these rules.
Because everyone has it’s own perspective of looking at things. And I am sure each of us has a different meaning and different understanding of these rules.
I hope that together we can understand the meaning and real essence of life through 40 rules of love by Shams.
Today, I am sharing with you an amazing and wonderful post which I read on Medium and is written by Julie X. I find this post a good piece of work to share with you.
My mom loves me and dotes on me, but she can’t help comparing me with other daughters. One day, I broke down in tears and retorted. I don’t remember what I said, but it was probably like, “if she’s so good, why don’t you make her your daughter?”
Since then, she cut back on the comparisons, but she still throws in a compliment about another daughter every now and then. The compliments are always about a female. Never a male. Successful sons aren’t relevant to me.
Now, not being a mother, I know nothing about bringing up kids, but I know getting compared is bad for me. Yet, it’s definitely not her fault.
Mom compares because my grandmother did it to her. My grandma has high expectations for her daughters and taught her that comparison helps us learn from others and become better people. It’s a perfectly good intention, and that’s the intention my mom harbors when she compares me to others. And I, in turn, compare myself to my peers.
Then again, I may have done the comparisons myself even if she had refrained from doing it—most people compare themselves to others.
To someone with low self-esteem, getting compared never stirs my competitive spirits. It simply confirms my perception that I’m not good enough.
So I used to fall into the murky pool of self-loathing back when I’ve been out-compared, which is all the time. Thankfully, after decades of self-loathing, I’ve resolved to self-accept. Turns out it’s possible to get sick of hating yourself after all.
These days, I don’t get as mad and disgusted by myself. It’s a step in the right direction. All I want is to be comfortable with the way I am.
What does comparing a child or yourself or anyone to others do, really?
It does little
If getting compared to others helps me to become a better person, I’d be an extremely successful person by now. I know what I can’t do better than anyone else because I constantly dwelled on it. Yes, this girl is bold, that girl is resourceful. Can I be bold and resourceful just by knowing they are? Not really.
It’s true that you can learn to improve what you’re doing by looking at what someone else is doing, but you should only take the pointers, not make the comparison.
It creates dissatisfaction, obviously
“Comparison is the thief of joy.” Theodore Roosevelt
I can’t remember how many times I’ve suffered that pang of disappointment in myself when I hear about a successful daughter. Even when I am proud of my thought processes and progresses, when a better, more capable daughter with higher earning power comes along, my satisfaction shatters. Comparison is the thief of joy.
Like it or not, there’ll always be a “better”, more capable person out there. If you turn comparison into a habit for your child or yourself, you’re bound to always be dissatisfied with yourself to some extent.
It worsens low self-esteem
When I was a kid, watching other kids in a competition, I’d get so bitter and I’d think I can do better than them. I could never just enjoy the show and be entertained because I instinctively compare myself to them. The bitterness is born of jealousy.
I confirm my own beliefs that I’m not good enough when I compare myself with someone more capable. Instead of accepting that I have a different set of qualities and problems, I jump straight into what I lack, essentially blinding myself from appreciating what I have and how I am.
Ever since I got old enough to see that someone else is better than me, I’ve felt inferior unless I come across someone in a worse situation, in that case, there’s a sense of camaraderie, which brings me to the last problem.
It is not compassionate or gracious
What are we doing when we compare? How are we supposed to feel when we come out on top? Are we supposed to feel better when someone else isn’t doing as well?
When we’re comparing ourselves to others, we’re basically hoping to be better than others. Is the satisfaction from being “better” than someone else a healthy satisfaction? Not at all, it’s mean, even. No one’s better than anyone. We’re all struggling in one way or another.
There’s a reason I’m not successful, and comparison rubs my face into what I already know I’m lacking — adding salt to my wound. Maybe it motivates some people to do better, but motivation can come from healthier places, like inspiration.
When we’re comparing, we’re always viewing someone’s success in relation to ourselves, so we put ourselves in the middle of everything.
I tend to compare myself with any capable woman I hear about. Most of the time, I’ll feel a stab of acidic disappointment in myself. Myself, myself — I’ve put myself in the center of everything. Tsk tsk. Ungracious. So ungracious.
It’s hard to be genuinely happy or sorry for someone if we’re prone to comparison. Our joy for someone better will always be tainted with jealousy or envy.
Comparing to others is groundless and pointless
You can’t compare the rose with the wildflowers, or the rabbit with the turtle. Can you say the orange tastes better than the apple? They have different flavor profiles. We’re all born with different personalities and different circumstances. It’s illogical to expect everyone to perform the same way.
I wish my grandmother didn’t compare my mom to others, but it’s probably what her mom taught her. I can see the effects on my mom. She’s constantly trying to be perfect, to be better, and I feel sorry for her because that’s tiring. I think part of her is still trying to meet my grandma’s expectations, even though my grandma died more than 10 years ago.
I don’t blame my mom for comparing me to other daughters. How can she not, when that’s what she’s been brought up to do? She finds it hard to tell her friends what I’m doing because I’m strange and unemployed. I feel bad for her, but I’m not about to change who I am. Well, not like I can.
I’ll never be the daughter she wants — a stable, strong, and financially robust person. (I’m thankful she loves me anyway.) I’m sensitive, introspective, and want little to my name, so I’m not built to climb the corporate ladder. I like to think that I’ve jumped right over the formalities of life into its core issues.
In other words, I simply have a different development arc, and that’s neither better nor worse than anyone else. It’s just… different.
At the end of the day, it’s all about self-acceptance.
Perhaps you compare yourself to others too, especially when you’re scrolling through social media and seeing the happy pictures of relatives and friends at their fancy dinners or expensive holiday trips. I hope you’ll remember that comparison brings you more harm than good, and not do it.
And if your parents too, compare you with someone else, I hope you’ll understand that it problem comes from a place of love, and remember this.
You became the way you are because of a combination of your personality and circumstances. We’re all on different paths, we carry different baggage and want different things, but there are things we can all do, and that’s to count our blessings, smell the flowers and accept ourselves.
I watched A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood the other day. There’s an important lesson in it, that we’re fine the way we are, and each of us is precious.
Here’s the original Mr. Rogers with an invaluable message. We’re indeed all fine as we are, regardless of success, financial worth, dispositions, looks, quirks, or flaws.
If you find yourself comparing yourself or your child or even your spouse to others, I hope you’ll refrain from doing that. I hope you’ll be kind to your loved ones and yourself — like your loved ones as they are, and yourself as you are.
I am back with another amazing blog to incite you.
Today, I will be sharing with you elegant and classy workspace ideas that will surely drive you to organize your workspace.
Last night, I spent some quality time on Pinterest and find out some super stylish and comfy workspace ideas for home. I am sure this post will motivate you to organize your workspace so that you can work conveniently.
Life is short. Work somewhere awesome. 🙂
Chic Workspace ideas
Elegant workspace with black and white theme.
Clean and bright workspace for classy look.
Minimal space taking idea with stylish look for workspace.
Modern bohemian chic look for workspcae.
Incredibly organized and creative workspace.
Organized and classic workspace with minimal space.
Modern look workspace for fulltime workers.
Thrifted vintage workspace.
Modern bohio chic home office look.
I hope that you will love this super aesthetic, modern and classy workspace ideas. And also hope that these pictures are enough to motivate you to organize your workspace.
Might be some of you were thinking that not everyone can afford these stylish and luxurious interior but let me tell you these pictures are just to give you some idea about how one can organzie workspcae that I am sure one can do with low budget and minimal space.
Just be creative and use your smart mind to apply these amazing ideas to organize your workspace.
Have you ever heard about the 40 rules of love by Shams Tabrizi? Wait wait. If you have read the book The Forty Rules Of Love by Elif Shafak. I bet you are well aware of these 40 rules of love because Elif Shafak in her book has beautifully put the meaning of love, spirituality, and religion with the help of these 40 Rules.
If you are still unaware of these beautiful rules of love then don’t worry you will be known of it after reading this post.
Who was Shams Tabrizi?
Shams of Tabriz was a Persian Sufi and roaming dervish who lived at the end of the twelfth/ early thirteenth century. He was the spiritual teacher and advisor of Rumi, and indeed it’s often said that Rumi was a professor who Shams transformed into a mystic, a lover, and a poet. There are many legends describing their meeting in Konya: Rumi was taught by Shams in seclusion for 40 days, and the period after this is described as Rumi’s ‘mysticism’, where Sufis danced, played music (rabab), and drank wine. It is in this time, that the concept of “whirling dervishes” originated.
What are those 40 Rules Of Love?
One day, according to legend, Rumi was reading next to a large stack of books. Shams Tabriz, passing by, asked him, “What are you doing?” Rumi scoffingly replied, “Something you cannot understand” (i.e. knowledge that cannot be understood by the unlearned.) On hearing this, Shams threw the stack of books into a nearby pool of water. Rumi hastily rescued the books and to his surprise they were all dry. Rumi then asked Shams, “What is this?” To which Shams replied, “Mowlana, this is what you cannot understand” (i.e. knowledge that cannot be understood by the learned.) Shams’ forty observations about the nature of love and God, the first five of which are illustrated here, can be read together (fine but a bit left brain, a bit “learned” as Shams might say) or discretely, each a starting-point for reflection (more right brain, letting the mind wander laterally and make connections). Like life, and love, learning is not a race to the finish, but a voyage to the start.
☘ Rule No.1
How we see God is a direct reflection of how we see ourselves; we don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are. If God brings to mind mostly fear and blame, it means there is too much fear and blames welled inside us. If we see God as full of love and compassion, so are we.
☘ Rule No.2
Thepath to the Truth is a labor of the heart, not of the head. Make your heart your primary guide! Not your mind. Meet, challenge, and ultimately prevail over yournafs(false ego; self, psyche, soul) with your heart. Knowing your false ego will lead you to the knowledge of God.
☘ Rule No.3
You can study God through everything and everyone in the universe because God is not confined in a mosque, synagogue, or church. But if you are still in need of knowing where exactly His abode is, there is only one place to look for him: in the heart of a true lover.
☘ Rule No.4
Intellect and love are made of different materials. Intellect ties people in knots and risks nothing, but love dissolves all tangles and risks everything. Intellect is always cautious and advises, ‘Beware too much ecstasy’, whereas love says, ‘Oh, never mind! Take the plunge!’ Intellect does not easily break down, whereas love can effortlessly reduce itself to rubble. But treasures are hidden among ruins. A broken heart hides treasures.
☘ Rule No.5
Most of the problems of the world stem from linguistic mistakes and simple misunderstandings. Don’t ever take words at face value. When you step into the zone of love, language, as we know it becomes obsolete. That which cannot be put into words can only be grasped through silence.
These rules are really wonderful to understand the meaning of life, love, and to create a connection with God. ——————————-⭐ —————————————⭐ In this post, I have only written 5 of the 40 rules of love because I want you all to please read these rules and try to understand them. I don’t want to put 40 rules in my post at once but I will be posting them in the coming days. Don’t just like my post without reading it because I want you to increase your understanding of love and life through this post and of course these rules. First read them then give like if you really like my post. ——————————-⭐ —————————————⭐ I would love to listen to your recommendations, thoughts, and feedback regarding these rules. Because everyone has it’s own perspective of looking at things. And I am sure each of us has a different meaning and different understanding of these rules.
I hope that together we can understand the meaning and real essence of life through 40 rules of love by Shams. ⭐⭐
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I hope you all are doing well. So, I have formally completed my two months in quarantine and it has been surprisingly good so far. Though I feel bored and annoyed sometimes but overall it is good and why am I saying that in quarantine I’m feeling good is because there is a reason behind it which you will get to know in this post. So, are you guys ready to know how to be organized and productive in quarantine?
So, let’s get started.
Being organized and productive has proved to be a very finicky task for me in this quarantine. It is really difficult to manage your time and doing productive things at home. In this epoch of modern technology where we are full time connected with the world through the internet and we spent our hours using smartphones, surfing on the internet, and scrolling on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and Snapchat. So, using time wisely in this very occupied time is really challenging. I have written this post because I think most of us are searching on the internet- how to be organized and productive in this quarantine? So, keeping this thing in my mind I have written some amazing tips for you guys.
5 things to follow in quarantine for being productive and organized.
1. Make a schedule and stick to it
This tip will help you manage your time wisely as well as help you in being organized and productive. Make a schedule and most importantly stick to it. Most of the time we make a schedule but failed in following it. It’s very simple to make a schedule. You just need to use a calendar — digital or print — and note down what you plan on doing throughout the day or week. Using a schedule and being stick to it will make you very clear in what you are doing during the day and also helps you to make your mind clear about different things. Because often we feel so much puzzled and had no idea of how to organize things so yeah scheduling will help you a lot being organized and prolific.
2. Make your space tidy and organized
Having a separate, tidy, and organized space is very important to do any work when it comes to productivity. Clutter often causes stress and create pressure on us even though we don’t realize this thing. Take some time out from your whole day to organize your space where you spent most of your time because it will help you being productive and manageable. Along with it, it has many benefits for you. For instance, it encouraged us to be confident, improved our efficiency of doing a task, helps us in better use of time, and also boosts in staying focused on our duties.
3. Do an online course
This tip is recommended especially to students. In this free time doing an online course will prove to be an amazing thing to do. Most of the students are always busy in their academics and didn’t get time to do online courses so one can call this quarantine a golden opportunity for students to improve their skills. Multiple websites offer online courses with certificates and even most of them are free. So, for being productive you can do an online course for which you only need to have internet access and a laptop or smartphone. Here are some websites that are personally in my use and I have myself done online courses on them. Coursera Alison Udemy edX
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4. Read books
I am fond of reading books and I believe reading actually does wonders. It helps in getting new ideas and different thoughts. It also improves our imagination, increases our information, and develops thinking. Here are some amazing books that are worth reading. You must read these books and can make your quarantine productive and beneficial.
The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck by Mark Manson
Forty Rules oF Love by Elif Shafak
It Ends With Us by Colleen Hoover
The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale
You can check out my Goodreads profile for knowing about the books I have read so far.
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5. Do whatever you like to do. (the work in which you find peace and happiness)
Of course, we get bored following schedule and doing things in a pattern so in your quarantine you can do the things you love to do, things in which you find peace and happiness. I f I talk about myself I really feel peace in painting and writing. Similarly, everyone has their own hobbies as per their nature so you can do whatever you like for the peace of your mind and for your self-improvement. For instance:
Write a Journal for personal entries
Video calling and Chatting with friends
Follow a self-care routine
I think all these five things will help you in making your quarantine time productive and organized. If you wanna add something else you can and you are free to do it. Also share in the comment section if you wanna share some tips about making this time fruitful, bright, and productive. So, I think now you get my point that I am feeling good in this quarantine.
Note: Don’t consider this quarantine a curse but use it wisely and make beautiful memories and pleasing moments so that you can have something good to share with your future generation. Stay home. Stay safe. Stay beautiful. Stay kind. and stay You. 🙂
I was thinking to share something inspirational. Since we all feel down sometimes in our life and when we read something inspirational somehow we got our energy back. So for staying motivated and inspired today, I am sharing some of the greatest self-help-quotes for you all. I found these on my phone gallery and they were really inspiring for me. I like these quotes and feel good reading these. So here they are.
I hope you will like these inspiring quotes that help in self-improvement. Stay safe. Stay home and take care.