Many people around us often hurt us or frighten us. They force us to do things that we do not want to do. They pass stupid jokes on us that can be cool for them but can irritate us. They try to make us feel down so that they may look smart. And often try to say things that aren’t actually in that way. All these things come into the category of bullying. And the person who is bullying can be your relative, neighbor, and even your friend.
Let’s say you are sitting with your friends. At that moment, one of your friends passes a joke on you and try to make fun of your weaknesses. Everyone sitting there started to laugh looking at you, and you also pretend to laugh. But that joke of your friend hurts you, and you feel inferior. Now here the point is we never say to our friends that I didn’t like your joke and please don’t do this again with me. We think that it is okay and it happens between friends. After all, we are friends – right? But we need to understand that being bullied by someone is not a good thing. It gives rise to anxiety, stress, and depression. Deep down that person feels poor and starts to dislike himself/herself.
Now the question is how to overcome this and not to be part of this stupid thing.
1. Speak up when you don’t feel good:
There are higher chances of being bullied when you are sitting with a group of friends. So if you don’t like what someone says to you, then say it and speak up that whatever you say isn’t good and I feel bad. By doing this, you can give a straight signal to that person that does not try to do this again. And I think it is good. We can say if we don’t like something. Rather than suffering in silence, it is a great idea to speak up and express what we feel.
2. Talk to your friend:
It may seem awkward for some people to speak up in front of many people and saying that I don’t feel good about that joke or anything. So one can also talk to that person in private who tries to bully. Try to figure out the problem together and solve it. So that you don’t be hurt by that person again.
We should always be honest with our friends and should let them know how they make us feel. We should let them know that their talks can hurt us, their jokes can irritate us, and their words can make us feel worse. Be simple, be direct, and sort out the things.
3. Walk away when you feel bad:
We always keep this thing in our mind and heart that our friends are the well-wisher of us, they can’t do anything wrong to us but that’s not always true. You may be judged by your friends, you may be criticized, ignored, or left out and you don’t even know because you think that they are your friends. Try to see things in a different way. There may be toxic people around you and they might be your friends. If you feel you are not okay with what is happening to you. Think about it when you were been judged and made fun of. If you think you were being bullied by your friends then simply walk away.
Friendship is a really amazing relationship. But we have to see things from a different perspective so that we can find out what’s wrong. Your friends can be your frenemies. These are the basic things in life. Because what people say to you is hurting you then it makes your life worse. It destroys your happiness, peace, and ultimately your life. Learn to stand for yourself, learn to speak when you don’t feel good, learn to talk for yourself, and even if still things are gone wrong simply walk away and make your life peaceful.
Frenimies: A person who combines the characteristics of a friend and an enemy.
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